{"id":2966,"date":"2016-01-20T17:13:46","date_gmt":"2016-01-20T17:13:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/actionresearchplus.com\/?p=2966"},"modified":"2021-05-04T03:28:14","modified_gmt":"2021-05-04T03:28:14","slug":"review-of-erospower-love-in-the-spirit-of-inquiry-bradbury-and-torbert-2016","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/actionresearchplus.com\/review-of-erospower-love-in-the-spirit-of-inquiry-bradbury-and-torbert-2016\/","title":{"rendered":"Eros\/Power: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry. Bradbury and Torbert, 2016"},"content":{"rendered":"
Eros\/Power<\/strong>: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry. Transforming how women and men relate. By Hilary Bradbury & Bill Torbert. 2016. Arizona: Integral Publishers. Available in paper or electronic form on Amazon<\/a>.<\/p>\n Praise From Around The Globe:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u201cIn sharing such intimate, personal narratives, Hilary and Bill undertake a conscious de-robing of themselves that is as risky and uncomfortable as it is inquiring and compassionate. At times, this makes for some difficult reading. But we would be doing them, and ourselves, a huge disservice if we were to engage with this book at a purely voyeuristic level. The book is nothing if not personal and political.\u201d\u2013 Patricia Gaya, Ph.D., Center for Action Research, U. Bristol UK<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cTo explore beyond the obvious means we need new pathways and a new vocabulary. Hilary and Bill offer us new pathways \u2026 They are not showing us the right way to be in relationships\u2026they are offering us a new vocabulary for making sense of some of the relationships we may well have had\u2026 The erotic friendship\u2014which they define as compassionate (in your mutual spiritual interest in the other\u2019s life and growth), dispassionate (in your mutual intellectual engagement of some sort), and passionate (in the spark or charge between you\u2014which may or may not be consummated in any way).\u201d\u2013 Jennifer Garvey Berger, Cultivating Leadership, Author Changing on the Job and Simple Habits for Complex Times. New Zealand.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cUnlike any action inquiry book I have previously read, Eros\/Power: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry is at once exciting, disturbing and encouraging. That seeming life\/relationship failure can be so openly and vulnerably shared by Bradbury and Torbert illustrates the success of the approach and indeed, the lives of these giants of action inquiry. I am changing for having had the privilege of reading this book.\u201d\u2013 Dr Michelle Redman-MacLaren, James Cook University, Australia<\/strong><\/p>\n Media, Interviews<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n More praise!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n The book is a heartfelt manifesto calling each of us to the great task of moving beyond the centuries\u2019 old paradigm of unilateral power exercised mostly by and for men without succumbing to the cheap pleasures of bashing the male beneficiaries of that power imbalance.\u201d\u2013 Joseph Friedman, co-founder and former Director of Training and Development, JMJ Associates, LLP<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThis book is a marvelous invitation to love and be loved. It\u2019s not for the timid. Hilary and Bill take us from a place of innocence to a place of eros where all taboos are broken, while leading us into a soulful inquiry about what love is and why it matters. This book charts the sexual revolution, and yet takes us much further. It\u2019s all about sexual evolution and the next phase of human consciousness, in which friendship, love, work, and altruism weave together into an ecstatic, thoughtful, and deeply caring vision of life well lived.\u201d\u2013 Chuck Palus, Ph.D., Senior Fellow Center for Creative Leadership.<\/strong><\/p>\n To buy this book was an easy decision. I\u2019ve been following\u2014and admiring\u2014Bill Torbert\u2019s work for decades. (Disclaimer: this eventually led to a close friendship.) He seems to have an instinctive urge to test boundaries. \u201cEros and Power\u201d is his boldest (and riskiest) venture, all the more interesting for having emerged from a partnership with Hilary Bradbury, who is among his most visibly successful former students. (Disclaimer #2: I have a chapter in her most recent edited volume on \u201caction research.\u201d) Bill is known for \u201caction inquiry,\u201d a body of work in which he stands on the shoulders of Chris Argyris and Donald Sch\u00f6n, and extends their work to include adult constructive developmental theory. In this book the authors highlight \u201crelational action inquiry,\u201d homing in on the volatile zone where eros and power intersect. We\u2019re all too familiar with superficial and commercial treatments of this zone. But as the authors ask in their introduction, \u201cIs the sadomasochism of Fifty Shades of Gray\u201d the best we can do?\u201d They think not, aspiring instead to contribute to understanding \u201cdevelopmental transformation in how women and men relate, whereby power is subordinated to love and love to inquiry.\u201d\u2013 Grady McGonagill, McGonagill Consulting, US<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI was pleased to get my hands on an early copy of this book, knowing both Hilary and Bill\u2019s work in the fields of action research\/inquiry and adult learning and development. Was I surprised and challenged by what I read? Sure. But most importantly, I was encouraged and inspired. Encouraged that among the many brave souls working on the myriad facets of the socio-economic, political, and ecological crises facing our world today, there are those who are willing to turn to the most intimate and allegedly private dimensions of our human experience, and there find a well of possibilities; a source of hope and potential development and transformation. In this book, personal, inter-gendered relationships are framed as sites for working and playing away at the deep transformative shifts required of us, individually, relationally, and culturally, if we are ever to heal the deep wounds of patriarchy and neo-liberal capitalism. The two authors\u2019 voices shine through, inquiring, evocative and honest, taking a \u2018no-holds barred\u2019 approach to exploring aspects of the human condition (e.g., sexism, abuses of power, interpersonal dysfunctions), we generally don\u2019t want to tackle. This book is inspirational: as a reader, it helps me to understand that the intimate details of our lives are as deserving and worthy of sustained attention, inquiry and development as our outward-facing activism. And that the two are necessarily and inherently linked. Definitely worth reading, and pondering deeply.\u201d\u2013 Paul Noone, Entrepreneur, Ireland and UK<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI felt like a welcome \u2018fly on the wall\u2019 and privy to a most delicate conversation between two people who care for each other. They declare intimate details of their lives, and their relationship, to bring into the sunlight that wonderful mysterious dance of the sexes. I just loved the book and found myself remembering the folly of some early romances:) I so enjoyed the insights from adult development theory and action inquiry. Coming from a leadership development background it was really great to have the action logics explored in this new territory. This is a book to savour, it is not a read it one go type of book. Read a bit, walk the hills and ponder on your own loving journey.\u201d\u2013 Anne Roberts, Scotland<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cProvocative and inspiring, this book captures the personal and interpersonal stories of two wise souls who also happen to be successful consultants and academic leaders. I enjoyed how the authors interweaved their own tales with an understanding of the developmental stage-approach to leadership development. Highly recommended.\u201d\u2013 Amiel Handelsman, Executive Coach Consulting, USA<\/strong><\/p>\n A book on love\u2026I see love as an immense open sea that allows \u201clovers\u201d to express their unique personal spirit in a fine quality, purity and intensity of relating that (truly) does love justice, in the sense that Adorno understands \u201cthe secret of justice in love is the annulment of all rights, to which love mutely points\u201d.<\/p>\n The book is superbly role modeling brave emancipated expression within a particular \u201chistoric moment\u201d in the world and human affairs that promotes commercialisation of human affairs and mechanical hyper-rationality in relations, while it fears genuine and full expression of human beings and relatedness. This is exactly what Carl Rogers hoped to have us all do: express and accept who we are without fear and discover within ourselves who we are as transcendental beings without being afraid this will mean derailment, but that instead that it is a process of re-discovery of a universal organismic process of valuing. This is how I define the \u201cproject\u201d of (inter)processual self. To me the book is radical in this sense but at the same time I \u201csee\u201d behind the particular expression of the two strong voices of two special persons a cognitivist struggle to fit this all within a (special, indeed) theory framework. I was struck by the materiality of all expressions of relatedness and this is perhaps a plethoric kind of experiencing of the entire generation of boomers. While the \u201cproject\u201d of the entire modern era since the dawn of the Enlightenment is bewitched by the pursuit of self-authorship and ways for its subsequent apokathelosis. A western journey occupying adults throughout most of their waking working lives till about when they are close to retire. Is there another way to self expression and self experiencing? Possibly yes and we all are still in the search how to find it\u2026 Here, I find myself thinking Frankl\u2019s words: \u201ca man who surrenders completely to the community would be lost himself, lose their own value, its specificity\u201d and this unexpectedly becomes a starting point for me.<\/p>\n \u2013 Dr. Kleio Akrivou, UK<\/strong><\/p>\n Review<\/strong><\/p>\n Patricia Gay\u00e0, Ph.D.<\/b>, of the Centre for Action Research and Critical Inquiry in Organizations reviews Eros\/Power: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry. Transforming how Women and Men Relate. By Hilary Bradbury and Bill Torbert. Integral Publishers, 2016.<\/p>\n The phrase \u201cno (wo)man is an island,\u201d though much-lyricized, still sums up the central challenge and opportunity of modern-day civilizations: to understand that without relationship, connection, and communion the human species cannot survive, let alone thrive. What is at stake here is not relationship for relationship\u2019s sake, for as we all know, relationships are as likely sources of pain and disappointment as they are of pleasure and support. The shadow side of power, in its all too many horrific guises, breaks through even the most supposedly sacrosanct of human relationships. Nowhere, perhaps, is this more insidious and seemingly intractable than in relationships between women and men in patriarchal\u2014and yes, even in would-be post-patriarchal\u2014societies. Eros\/Power: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry, the latest in Hilary Bradbury and Bill Torbert\u2019s important contributions to action inquiry in service of human and planetary flourishing, takes this most persistent and momentous of challenges as its starting ground.<\/p>\n Like the true action researchers they are, Hilary and Bill are not content to accept at face value the idealist refrain that all you need is love\u2014tempting and catchy as it might be. Or at least not without first committing\u2014as their deepest ongoing question, as the work of a lifetime (or two!)\u2014to seeking out a practical understanding of what it is that love really is, and what it might mean to act lovingly in each instance, in each relationship and each encounter\u2026 even in each metaphorical grazing of elbows, and especially where subtle and not so subtle power imbalances and dynamics are at play.<\/p>\n With astonishing incisiveness and frankness, Hilary and Bill reflect on their own experiences of seeking and being in relationship through their own life trajectories, opening up for interrogation their own fumbling, stumbling, eventually inquiring, and ever evolving approaches to grappling with both Eros and Power in relationships with significant human others. In sharing such intimate, personal narratives, Hilary and Bill undertake a conscious de-robing of themselves that is as risky and uncomfortable as it is inquiring and compassionate. At times, this makes for some difficult reading. But we would be doing them, and ourselves, a huge disservice if we were to engage with this book at a purely voyeuristic level. The book is nothing if not personal and political. The overarching questions and provocations raised belong to us all, speaking to the heart(\/mind\/body)ache and to the relational discomforts and betrayals that are seemingly inescapable elements of the human condition. It brings home to us at the deepest of levels that our worthiest aspirations for social transformation and planetary flourishing begin with the most intimate of details: with our lived inter-subjective experiences and moment to moment relating with others.<\/p>\n Eros\/Power: Love in the Spirit of Inquiry propounds a courageous and inspiring vision of inter-gendered friendships as sites for mutually supportive, ongoing exploratory quest(ioning), with the potential to heal, transcend, and transform tired patterns of relating between women and men. The book invites us, the readers, to reflect on those relationships which matter most to us: those in which mutuality and loving respect are, have been, or could be aspirations (more) explicitly shared and worked with \u2018in the spirit of inquiry\u2019\u2014including those relationships, both intimate and professional, in which structural and gendered power dynamics are salient, and all too often bruising and constraining, if generally unacknowledged. But this book does more than inspire\u2014it also equips us. Those intrepid readers who choose to go on to inquire into how their own friendships and relationships could be awakened, (re)visited, (re)invigorated, and enlivened through Eros\/Power can garner support from the action inquiry approaches that the authors have spent decades crafting, refining, and seeking to put into practice, and which they model and share in this work.<\/p>\n This book is a powerful manifesto, offering us a way to a radically different future. A future of infinite possibilities, enabled by a soulful, full-bodied dance with the erotic life force that pulses, all too often unbidden and unheeded, within each of us, and in the places and moments where subjectivities meet. Possibilities to craft intimate relationships nourished and uplifted by Eros\/Power. To co-create meaningful work and collective endeavors empowered by Eros\/Power. To speak truth to power, from an understanding of power that embraces Eros. To breathe new life into our search for alternative forms of relational, social, and organizational practice more supportive of planetary flourishing. Hilary\u2019s and Bill\u2019s autobiographical writing is itself a gesture of love: a gift on their part to all out there who could\/would transform in relationships, friendships, communities, and more-than-human contexts, and thus make both healing and flourishing at every systemic level possible\u2026 starting from the ground, heart, and loins up.<\/p>\n Patricia Gay\u00e0, Ph.D., <\/b>Centre for Action Research and Critical Inquiry in Organizations.University of Bristol, UK.<\/p>\n To purchase and\/or review a copy of Eros\/Power: http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Eros-Power-Love-Spirit-Inquiry\/dp\/1495159140\/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1447031855&sr=8-1<\/a><\/p>\n\n
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